Does anyone else ever kinda gently spank themselves on the butt out of habit because you enjoy the slight jiggling sensation?
Girls are told to be skinny but not too skinny and to wear makeup but not so much that guys can tell and to dress in revealing clothes but not too revealing or else you’re a slut and a hundred other contradictory standards so I think guys can deal with being made fun of for wearing fedoras
When watching a show I don’t think ‘Well politically correctly there should be two more minorities’
I’m thinking ‘This is suffocating, this isn’t what life is like, why do i not exist, why do my friends not exist, what the fuck is with this idealisation of one type of person?’
manicpixienightmarequeen asked: Hello, if you're feeling up to it, could you give a bit of explanation/opinion about SJ's obsession with ableism as a list of words? It makes me uncomfortable in a way I can't articulate, and you're very good at talking about that kind of thing concisely.
So I spent some time thinking about this, and it’s not as polished as I’d like, but it’s what I’ve got. All uses of “you” are general-you.
A lot of ~social justice analysis~ on the internet is very shallow and reductive. For some reason, this seems especially prevalent when it comes to discourse around ableism, probably because people don’t understand it very well.
It’s a lot easier to say “don’t say crazy” than it is to be relaxed and standing next to me in line when I’m stimming out and people are staring.
It’s a lot easier to say “don’t say special needs” than it is to be chill about a supported housing project in your neighborhood.
It’s a lot easier to say “don’t say insane” than it is to boycott restaurants that aren’t wheelchairs accessible.
It’s a lot easier to say “don’t say idiot” than it is to say “talk to her, not to me,” when people start talking about me like I’m not even in the room.
It’s a lot easier to say “don’t say that” than it is to actually address how pernicious and pervasive and sneaky ableism is, how much it gets in your head and poisons the water, and how much you are trained to not see disabled people as people—to not see us at all.